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What It Means to Forgive?

Forgiveness means letting go of the hope or expectation that I can change the past.

Today, I can accept that, and that’s all that I’m invited to agree by saying the word forgive.
This brings to me a huge sense of peace.

In the past, I felt forced to forgive as part of being a good person, but it often
meant allowing other people to own my power. It allowed me to be bullied and victimized,
and it created the false belief that that’s what I deserved and what life had to offer me.

Forgiveness does not mean I’m going to fix or change the person, their behavior, or the relationship.

Also, forgiveness does not man giving up my boundaries or being exposed and vulnerable to people who don’t deserve my trust.

Now, forgiveness means loving myself enough to let go of the past and its grip on me, choosing to
focus on today and all the wonderful things it has to offer me.
Forgiveness means honoring and caring for my greatest gift and responsibility-my life.
Today I have a choice.

Say with me:

God, I thank you for fogginess, and for my ability to be open to a wonderful present.

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