It is true proverb, that if you live with a lame man you will learn to halt.
Working through the memories of childhood is task each of us eventually faces.
We can decide whether it’s important for us to know if and how our pain operated in our families.
We can gain that knowledge as we need it. But simply knowing that we can heal the pain, and that we didn’t cause it helps us to stop blaming ourselves.
The important thing is to concentrate on ourselves.
We cannot change our families or the past, but we can attitudes toward them.
When we feel caught up in a family member’s pain, we can bring our attention back to ourselves.
That way, resentment and fruitless anger yield to honesty and humility.
Detaching from the things we cannot change, forgiving the harm done to us, and letting go of the past are important parts of our healing.
Just like any other child, I had too much pain from my father. To the moment that I thought I won’t forgive him because I won’t forget what he has done to me. But today I learned to forgive him because I need to.
Say with me:
Just for today, I will let go of anger and resentment toward my family and focus on taking care of myself.